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Andhra girl studying MBA commits suicide: What is love all about after all?
News about Andhra girl studying MBA allegedly committing suicide during a live video call with the boy she was purportedly in love with is really saddening and perturbing. Her mobile is reported to have been recovered and the police are investigating the case.

Hanisha Choudhary, a second year MBA student of Sivasivani Institute of Management in Hyderabad, committed suicide by hanging herself in the college hostel on Saturday night. She was reportedly in love with one Dakshish Patel. The duo were engaged in a live video call during which the girl hung herself.

Many times I wonder about the myths and conceptions about love that are commonly held by young people in relationships. Psychologists believe that it is easy to fall in love but requires a lot of effort to make a relationship work due to huge gaps in our knowledge of what really love is all about and its popular notions. This knowledge gap can become crippling to the level of taking one's own life or others' lives at times.

Perceptions and notions of people about love abound and vary from its biological to sociological to cognitive to platonic to divine shades and forms.

According to Jim Al-Khalili, a science writer, love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst, only more permanent since we have no control over it. So, biologically speaking, love is deemed as an attraction based on sexual desire. It may begin with fooling around, flirting or dating leading to physical intimacy and sensual gratifications.

The Merriam Webster Dictionary describes the sociological aspect of love as a strong affection for one another arising out of kinship or personal ties based on tender feelings leading to endearment and mutuality.

Thus, sociologically speaking, love is seen as an unselfish and benevolent concern - a non-sexual intimacy - for the good of one another. Social groups and reformers invariably stress this form of love.

Therefore, the applied sociology of upbringing, education and learning should stress an affectionate bond of love between various role-actors as a community of learners as a pre-condition to formal and institutionalized learning and development, I feel.

This notion of love, chemistry and physical attraction is often given importance. I feel that market forces, materialism, behaviourism, masculinism and entertainment industry try to shape behaviour of children right from their formative stage to this notion of love by objectifying women as things of desire. Many people believe that this notion of love leads to crime and social strife.

Psychology portrays love as a cognitive and emotional phenomenon leading to social bonding. Positive psychology focuses on pleasant and desirable emotions like happiness and optimism through love as a social bonding to optimal functioning of a person. In a way, positive psychology sees love as an outcome of many tangible pleasant and feel-good emotions and stresses refinement of emotions by removing negative traits. Love will happen if we remove hatred and self-gratifications by exploiting others, it is claimed.

There is a spiritual notion of love too. Catherine Wybourne, a Benedictine nun, says that love is more easily experienced than defined since it is more of a theological virtue that can never hurt anyone.

For humans, love is life's greatest blessing. As Aristotle puts it, "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." It is often said that true love is to be discovered as a personal indescribable spiritual experience within to become love-personified.

True love looks more like a paradox - something impossible. Spirituality looks at love as the 'art of the impossible'. As Mother Teresa puts it, "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love."

Often people, while trying to know about love, want a definition of love. It is really impossible to define love. What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind since no one really knows it and it cannot be defined. However, everyone has an opinion to offer on love.

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